This meeting has been ended by the host.

I was on a group zoom call a few weeks back with a wonderful group of women leaders. It was a powerful meeting that really inspired me and I felt very connected to this group. And then the meeting ended and the notification “this meeting has been ended by the host” popped up and it felt very jarring. I went from being in a space of connection and feeling surrounded by strong energy to being alone staring at my computer.

It made me think of all the times that one part of our life or one situation ends and you are suddenly in a different place. You go from being a college athlete to not as soon as you graduate. You go from being in a relationship to single when someone ends it. You go from being at a party to being alone when you drive away from the venue. You go from being in a career to being retired when you leave your job on the last day. Ultimately, you go from living to dying when you take your last breath.

It feels dramatic to put it in those words but it also feels like a pull on reality. That you don’t always know when things will end- a relationship, a career, a situation and even a life.

That makes all of the things that I talk about, here in the blog or on podcast interviews or in coaching sessions feel even more relevant. To live in the moment, to make intentional choices, to take care of your body, to be the best version of yourself, to be authentic, to surround yourself with people who love you and to breathe deeply all feel so important when you think about situations ending. If you sit in anxiety waiting for the end- of a relationship of a situation of a season- you are not living in the now and enjoying what you do have.

Its an obscure analogy to go from “the meeting has been ended by the host” to a relationship ending to ”you might die tomorrow” but it feels so true. Things end eventually and when it is your last day, your last hour or your last year, have you lived the life that you want to? Have you cultivated the friendships and relationships that truly matter to you? Have you spent your days taking care of yourself and loving yourself for who you truly are? Have you been your true and authentic self? Have you laughed? Have you said “yes” to something that terrifies you? Have you pushed yourself through the fear? Have you reframed limiting stories that have been holding you back from feeling fulfilled? Have you lived a life you can look back on proudly?

I encourage you to think about your life. Where it has been. Where it is. Where it’s going. Is this the path you want to be on? Are these the relationships that you want? Is this the career you desire? Is this the town or city you want to live in? Is this how you want to feel in your body? Is this how you want to fill your days?

Take some time to journal on these questions. See what areas of your life are not where you truly want them. Then make a small change or step towards what you want. Give yourself a chance to look back on your life and be proud. Proud of yourself. Proud of your legacy. Proud of who you are and what path you took.

You got this. Keep going.