Guest blog with Amber Tippit

Happier in the Moment

I spent most of my 20s living in the future…..I will be happy when I graduate from college, when I get a better job, when I have a better home, when my kids are older….every single time the mark moved, I had something else to fill in the blank. I spent most of my 30s living in the past….if only I had chosen a different career, I wish I could be the size I was in high school and on and on. Toward the end of my 30s I realized, you can’t find happiness in the past filled with regret nor can you wait for the future to happen to be happy. Happiness happens now, today, in this moment, in the PRESENT. You may be thinking BUT I’m 30 lbs overweight, I’m drowning in debt, I’m all alone, insert your reason here__________________. I know I have been there too. I’m not saying life is all roses and it will never be. Let’s just face it, life sometimes down right SUCKS! But you only have one life and this life is yours to choose what you are going to make of it. So if you are where I was earlier in my life and let me be honest, I still find myself sometimes, a place that’s hard to be happy. I want to share some things I did to help you begin to shift into a happier, more positive mindset.

The first thing I had to do was stop focusing on all the negative stuff in my life and in the world. What you focus on you find! For example, I didn’t like the way I looked. I focused on my weight, my stretch marks, and all the things I felt that was wrong with me. I didn’t feel good about myself at all. In the world, I saw all the rude and uncaring people. This brought such sadness to my life. I was so tired of feeling this way. I needed a change and I found this book that helped me focus on the positive side of life. So I focused on what I liked about myself...my eyes, my hair, that I’m kind and caring. The more I looked for the good stuff the more I found….the better I felt...the happier I became. I also focused on looking for people making a difference and looked for caring people. Guess what I found. Good caring people.

I know you are probably thinking well what do you do when someone is just rude to you for no reason. How can you just take it? I have found if you can try to put yourself in their shoes and see things from their perspective you can usually be empathic and can move forward and not let that experience turn your positive attitude into a negative one. What I mean is you don’t know if that person has lost a loved one, having financial trouble, or going through a divorce. So be kind because you have no idea how your kindness can have an effect on that person. Being kind to people makes me happy and I’m less affected by the negativity around me.

Also learn to be present in the moment and in your body. When you are spending time with someone, truly be there with them. Not looking at your phone or watching TV. Look eye to eye with them, listen to what and how they are expressing their feelings to you. If you are sitting outside, feel the sun's warmth against your skin and the breeze blowing in your hair. Notice all the different colors in the sun set and the beauty of nature.  I know if you do the above things it will help you to be happier in the moment.

If you feel you need more to really shift into a happier, more positive mindset, I would love to talk to you. I want to welcome you into my circle so we can do this together.

Email me at  happiercoaching@gmail.com or check out my website www.ambertippit.com .